It’s PRIDE month and we couldn’t be happier to celebrate individualism, acceptance, positivity and personal rights. This all sounds lovely on paper – but read each of those words aloud while facing a mirror. Do YOU honestly feel this way about yourself??
No matter your orientation, identity, or any ‘check box’ for that matter, acceptance comes in it’s greatest form when you choose to love and accept yourself, boundlessly.
“I’m not as lucky as other people”
“If I don’t do well, I’m a failure”
“I’m not good enough”
“I should be better than I am”
“Bad things will happen”
“I’m not smart enough”
Any of these sound familiar?
We all do it – negative self talk. But most of us don’t realize the incredibly self-sabotaging effect it has on our relationships, career, and personal lives.
But, if we deliberately do the opposite and use positive thoughts about ourselves, the effect can be just as powerful but far more helpful.
Here’s some beginner affirmations, but we *highly* encourage you to personalize these and make them your own (some tips to come on that too).
Get started with affirmations:
- Start with 3 to 5 minutes at least twice a day. An easy way to remember this is to do it when you first get up and before you go to bed. Chances are you’re already in the bathroom at this time and we highly encourage you to use a mirror and say it out loud. Or choose one of the above affirmations and save it as your phone wallpaper. Now you must read it out loud every time you unlock your phone.
- Repeat each affirmation about 10 times. Say your affirmations out loud, repeatedly. Think about each word and believe it to be true. Watch your face as you say it in the mirror and notice any changes over time.
- Ask a trusted loved one to help. Listening to someone else repeat your affirmations may help reinforce your belief in them. Another cool way to get a loved one involved is to record them saying your affirmation about you and play their recording after you’ve done your personal affirmations for reinforcement.
- Make your routine consistent. Try not to skip any days. If you meditate or journal, affirmations can be a great addition to your practice. Think about times when you’re alone or less distracted. Driving is usually a great time to turn off the radio, put up the phone and be present!
- Be patient. It may take some time before you notice any changes, so stick with it. Remember start with at least twice a day, but try to build in more time for affirmations. Another idea is to do this any time you enter/exit a room, or when you get in or out of the car. Attaching this to an existing habit that takes little-to-no effort on your part will help you to practice your new habit more frequently and easily.
How to personalize your affirmations:
Set them in present tense. You’re using affirmations to help change long-standing patterns and beliefs. A good way to bring this change about is to act as if you’ve already succeeded. A goal is something you’re setting out to achieve, but an affirmation is a belief or confidence in something you already have, by reminding you of what you can do right now.
Be realistic + specific. Affirmations are the most successful when they center around specific traits. If your affirmation centers around a statement you don’t believe as true, it can have little effect. So instead of stating something generic and ultra positive like “I am beautiful” or “I love my body” you’d want to say something like “I love that my legs are strong enough to take me to amazing places, walk my dog every day, and swim with my friends,” or “I love my smile and kind eyes and my laugh lights up a room.”
Affirm your favorite traits. Instead of focusing on what you want to change, focus on what you already have. You’re unique and have many characteristics that are special to you. Affirming these aloud can help you see yourself in a new light, which can help to prevent self-criticism. Ask your loved ones their favorite trait or two of yours (physical, personality, or otherwise) and we bet you’d have quite a few to choose from!